Do you suffer from G.A.S?
That’s “Goal Avoidance Syndrome.”
I got an email yesterday from Lois.
Lois has G.A.S.
Lois, said she’s had the same 3 main health and weight loss goals for over a decade and, she said, “I haven’t accomplished any of them.”
“I keep trying,” she wrote. “I haven’t given up on them. And sometimes I make some progress, but it’s never enough. It seems like I’m always starting over from scratch.”
It’s easy to infer that Lois has G.A.S. She’s finding ways to avoid her goals.
It’s partly because goals are easy to say. Easy to think about. Easy to hope for.
But they’re also trickier than we’re usually lead to believe.
There are countless articles, books, websites, seminars, conferences, gurus, coaches, and trainers that claim they’ll help you accomplish your goals. There’s even a bunch of goal setting software out there now for your computer and smart phone.
In spite of all the knowledge, training, tricks, and techniques that are available, G.A.S. is still a huge problem for most of us.
I’m going to assume that you’ve already heard the old “S.M.A.R.T.” goal setting technique. It seems to be all over the place. It says your goals should follow the S.M.A.R.T formula:
No disagreement from me.
And then most goal setting techniques you hear about these day are big on positive affirmation.
No disagreement from me.
But it seems to me there are really 2 fundamental issues that are too often ignored or overlooked. They are your goal setting foundation. You have to address these things first and foremost before any of the plethora of goal setting “techniques” are going to do you any good.
- Habit Retraining.
First, if you’re not truly motivated to make and achieve a goal, you won’t. I don’t care what techniques you use. If you don’t have strong motivation or if you somehow lose your motivation in the process, all the techniques in the world won’t make up for it.
To find your true motivation, after your use the S.M.A.R.T. technique to write down a goal, go back and ask yourself “why?”
For example, “I will weigh 118 pounds by the first of August.”
That’s Specific, Measurable, we’ll assume Sonus Complete Achievable and Realistic for you, and it’s obviously Time Targeted.
Now ask yourself, “why do I want to weigh 118 by the first of August?”
Let’s say your answer is, “I want to look great for my cousin’s wedding.”
That’s fine, but superficial. So ask yourself again, “why?”
And whatever the answer is, ask “why” again.
And then again, and again.
Do this over and over.
Challenge yourself to really dig down deep to discover your real motivation. Find out if you actually have a real motivation.
If not, you might want to rethink that goal because it will be very hard to achieve it no matter how hard you try without being strongly motivated to do so.
Motivated from your depths, by the way. Not just casually motivated.
Second, even if you are strongly and deeply motivated, you have habits that have led you to the place in your life that you’re in right now. That have brought you to the weight you’re at and the state of health you’re in.